Dog's tail can never straighten

It's been such a long time but my pathetic situation remains the same. A phone call from D and SHE has to dance to her tunes. It's always HER and not OUR FAMILY. Saturday is Gurudwara Time but D calls HER and no wonder SHE is there. Missing the Gurudwara again. And then THEY are not even offered DINNER. I call when Langar is done and am told "WE are on our way to the Gurudwara". I might as well wait. Remember, Avjot has just recovered. But our house, our kids - they can take a backseat. Then as soon as SHE reaches Gurudwara, SHE starts calling - not once, not twice but thrice. I had to come out of the Hall and ask them to now go HOME as kids are hungry and langar not be just a restaurant. Again tell her in clear terms - SHE misuses the fact that I don't know how to make roti. Day ends, we goto sleep and morning again same syaapa. SHE has no idea of kids and their school. I am taking printouts and she again passes a snide remark even accusing me of not saying Sat Sri Akal to D. That shows the level of upbringing SHE has had. I am stuck in this mess and I need to break free. When will this all end?